Posted by: Chris Avery | September 14, 2008

To Have a Godly Home Part 1

Today’s sermon from Mt. Morris Community Church was “To Have a Godly Home” Part 1 (Colossians 3:18-19) Here are some notes I took

18Wives, be subject to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord.
 19Husbands, love your wives and do not be embittered against them.

A stable society is built on 2 pillars: authority and submission

There are 4 things built on the 2 pillars

Wives – Proper Submission v. 18

Satan is in the business of dissolving marriages. It is an area where you will experience many of his attacks.

We see problems when there is a reversal of God ordained roles.

God’s marriage counseling never emphasizes rights; it always emphasizes duties

Ephesians 5 is a parallel passage

 22Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord.
 23For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body.

 24But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be to their husbands in everything.

 25Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself up for her,

Headship is not to be maintained by force nor should the women respond to it with force.

Notice the verse says to your OWN husbands. It does not say a woman has to submit to all men,

This does not make women inferior.

1 Corinthians 11:3
3But I want you to understand that Christ is the head of every man, and the man is the head of a woman, and God is the head of Christ.

We see that Jesus set the example by being submissive to the Father even though He was equal with Him.

submission is not… I’ll do it (but I’m going to throw it in your face later that you’re wrong)

Others verses he mentioned were

Romans 7:2
2For the married woman is bound by law to her husband while he is living; but if her husband dies, she is released from the law concerning the husband.

1 Corinthians 14:34
34The women are to keep silent in the churches; for they are not permitted to speak, but are to subject themselves, just as the Law also says.

1 Timothy 2:11
 11A woman must quietly receive instruction with entire submissiveness.

Titus 2:5
5to be sensible, pure, workers at home, kind, being subject to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be dishonored.

1 Peter 3:1-7
 1In the same way, you wives, be submissive to your own husbands so that even if any of them are disobedient to the word, they may be won without a word by the behavior of their wives,
 2as they observe your chaste and respectful behavior.

 3Your adornment must not be merely external–braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses;

 4but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.

 5For in this way in former times the holy women also, who hoped in God, used to adorn themselves, being submissive to their own husbands;

 6just as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, and you have become her children if you do what is right without being frightened by any fear.

 7You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her

honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered.

I have highlighted some of the reasons why women are to be submissive.

Husbands – Powerful Love v. 19

When it says love your wives it means the husband is supposed to carry out leadership in love.

It’s not passive! It’s active!

The man has to be willing to sacrifice self comfort.

This is a command for continuous action (not a feeling)

They are supposed to do it as Christ loved the church.

We see that marriage is a picture of the gospel. The husband loves the wife and she responds by loving him in return.

Sinclair Ferguson said

“Paul’s point here is that in expressing the mystery of Christ, wives and husbands give expression to different dimensions of the relationship

between the Lord and his people. In the case of the husband, as we shall see, his calling is to love, care for, and protect his wife as Christ does the

church. But the wife’s role in this domestic cameo of grace is to illustrate how the believer responds to Christ’s love with deep and joyful submission.”


If a son were to see his mother nagging her husband and the father continues to love her… the son might come up and ask why he treats her so well

when she is like that. Then the father can say it is because he loves her. Or the situation could be reversed with the husband acting in a poor

manner and the wife loving him despite it.

I really didn’t do justice to this…. I will post the link to download the sermon later when it is up on their site.


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